Refuge Counseling Resources

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Workshops, Programs, Seminars,

and Retreats

Parenting in the Transition: Who is This Kid & What happened to My Baby?!

Facilitated by Kimberly Trask

As your child transitions from childhood to adulthood, it would be an understatement to say that they don’t seem to be the same person.  They aren’t!  The way you related to him or her as a child doesn’t work as well now.  Learn how the physical, mental, and emotional changes your teen has and is experiencing impacts the parent-child relationship and the changes both you and your teen need to address in order to maintain (or repair) your relationship.


Healthy Boundaries: Setting, Communicating, and Enforcing Healthy Limits for Your Teens

Facilitated by Kimberly Trask

We all have “boundaries,” invisible lines that we don’t want others to cross.  Sometimes we have trouble determining which boundaries need to be strengthened and which need to be relaxed.  As parents, we set boundaries (rules) that our teens seem compelled to challenge.  We also become concerned when it appears that our teen’s boundaries with their friends don’t seem strong enough.  Learn how you and your teen can be on not only the same page, but the same side.  Work together to build boundaries both of you can live with.


When Should I Worry? Separating the Melancholy & the Melodramatic

Facilitated by Kimberly Trask

Teens are moody and middle and high school are full of drama.  So how do you know the difference between teenage angst and symptoms of depression or anxiety?  When should you start to worry?  This is a stage of new, exciting, and even troubling feelings that your teen has never experienced and doesn’t have even the words to describe.  Learn what to look for and how to respond in ways that can help keep your teen safe.  Learn how to respond in a way that opens the door to communication with your teen.


Coping Skills: The When, What, Where, Why and How of Getting Through

Facilitated by Kimberly Trask

How do you handle a difficult situation?  How do you react to someone’s insensitivity?  When it seems as though no one cares, what keeps you going? There is no limit to the number of coping skills you can identify, but what can be most helpful for anxiety, calming for anger, or encouraging for depression or low self-esteem?  Although there is no one simple “cure-all” coping strategy, there are basic skills to help you identify what you need at the moment to keep yourself safe and feeling relatively sane.  Learn simple techniques to help yourself handle one day or crisis at a time.  This is not just “kids’ stuff” – adults need it, too.


Emotions:  The good, the bad and the ugly

Facilitated by Kimberly Trask

The changes from the onset of puberty are not only physical but also social and emotional.  These three together to create new emotions that teens struggle to identify and describe.  Frustration grows as the teen believes he or she is not understood by parents yet has exhausted every conceivable description or explanation.  Believing they are misunderstood or that no one cares to try to understand, the young person withdraws further, adding to the parent’s worry and the downward spiral in parent-teen relationships and communication has begun.   Learn ways to help your teen identify, express, and cope with the onslaught of new emotions during this tumultuous transition to adulthood.


Anger and Conflict: Bury the Hatchet Without Anyone Getting Hurt

Facilitated by Kimberly Trask

Rolled eyes, heavy sighs, crossed arms and slammed doors scream volumes without your teen uttering a word.  And not talking is just one of the issues triggering a parent’s own heavy sighs, crossed arms and slammed doors.  Why does your teen seem to be so withdrawn and angry, bristling at the simple greeting of “How was your day?”  Learn how each of us handles anger differently and simple tools to resolve conflicts before they become catastrophes.


Perspective: When you and your teen don’t see eye to eye

Facilitated by Kimberly Trask

Both you and your teen look at the same incident and see two extremely different situations.  Why does it seem that when you say something, he looks at you as if you are speaking a foreign language?  And is that “logic” she is using to explain her thinking?  Yet your teen is thinking the same thing! An understanding that a different perspective is not necessarily a wrong perspective is crucial to finding common ground on which to build and strengthen your relationship with your teen as he or she transitions into young adulthood.  Learn how communication is both talking AND listening, and just how important an aptly phrased question can be.



The Art of Marriage (A FamilyLife Resource)

Facilitated by Traci Poe

The Art of Marriage can be held in two different formats. One format is a video driven, day-and-a-half event (usually a Friday night and Saturday). The second format option is a six-session study (usually once a week). The Art of Marriage is a powerful resource that looks at marriage the way God intended it to be. The program utilizes video segments from ministry leaders, real-life stories, humorous vignettes, as well as personal and couple assignments to help reinforce all of the valuable topics.


Getting Ready for a Life-Long Marriage

SYMBIS Assessment Used

Facilitated by Traci Poe

A series of 8 - 10 sessions provided for individual couples or couples coming together as a small group. The sessions cover valuable topics such as communication, finances, and conflict management. During the sessions, the SYMBIS Assessment is used.